Biblical Courtship: What Is It?

If you’re reading this, you’re interested in courtship/dating. You’ve done it, you’re doing it, you’d like to do it, or you need to teach somebody else how to do it. Don’t worry. You’re not alone. In our society, dating has become something of an obsession. It is expected to be a universal phenomenon. It’s just something you do if you’re single and of age (and that age is quickly dropping) in America. (more…)

“Settling” for Mr. Good Enough

“My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion or intense connection…. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year.  (more…)

Beliefs That Break Hearts

Have you ever thought about the belief system that underpins our girlfriend/boyfriend culture? There are many different ways people define and “do” boyfriend/girlfriend relationships but there seem to be at least 2 common beliefs that characterise what most women would mean if they said they had a boyfriend: (more…)

It Matters Whom You Marry

My husband and I were once with a youth group. There were three kids sitting across from us at a meal: two guys and a girl. The one guy was a computer geek with glasses. The other one was a college student with slightly cooler hair and no glasses. The girl was obviously with him. (more…)

Praying, Waiting & Mr Right

A few nights ago I spent time in prayer for my future family. I trust if its God’s will for me to marry, He will bring me someone amazing and I thanked Him for that as well as thanking Him for any children He chooses to bless me with. I also prayed for my future husband’s here and now. I prayed that God would strengthen him and continuously (more…)

Chemistry, Intimacy & Attachment (Are they important?)

How important do you think chemistry is when it comes to choosing a marriage partner?  What about emotional intimacy?  Do we need to get deeply attached to a person before we can know if we should marry them?  How can we know, before getting engaged, if we’re capable of experiencing great emotional intimacy in marriage (more…)

Singleness in Light of Eternity

Singleness was for me the best and worst of times. Single all through my twenties, I took full advantage of the freedoms it offered: living in multiple locations, pursuing graduate degrees, cultivating deep friendships, becoming very involved at the churches I attended, and enjoying great adventures on multiple continents. (more…)

Courtship vs Boyfriends (What’s the difference?)

What is the difference between a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship involving two Christians and courting?  This is a question I get asked a lot!  I think one of the key differences can be summed up by a single word: ‘BELONGING’. Let me explain! (more…)