We often do not see ourselves as well as others see us. And sometimes we are so star struck with another person that we do not see the whole picture very clearly. While we don’t let others make our decisions for us, the Bible is clear that we are not to rely only on ourselves for wisdom. (more…)
“My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion or intense connection…. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year. (more…)
My husband and I were once with a youth group. There were three kids sitting across from us at a meal: two guys and a girl. The one guy was a computer geek with glasses. The other one was a college student with slightly cooler hair and no glasses. The girl was obviously with him. (more…)
A few nights ago I spent time in prayer for my future family. I trust if its God’s will for me to marry, He will bring me someone amazing and I thanked Him for that as well as thanking Him for any children He chooses to bless me with. I also prayed for my future husband’s here and now. I prayed that God would strengthen him and continuously (more…)
How important do you think chemistry is when it comes to choosing a marriage partner? What about emotional intimacy? Do we need to get deeply attached to a person before we can know if we should marry them? How can we know, before getting engaged, if we’re capable of experiencing great emotional intimacy in marriage (more…)
What would you think of me if I told you that I met my husband while drunk in Las Vegas and married him that very evening? Crazy, irresponsible, foolish? Would you be surprised if I told you that we soon realized we had nothing in common, fundamentally disagreed on nearly everything important and are now really struggling to make things work? Probably not! My point? It’s not wise to choose to marry a stranger while drunk! But how many of us would willfully let love stir up and awaken (more…)
Why, oh why, are so many of the pre-marital counselling resources written for individuals who are already engaged? Biblically, a bethrothal (engagement) could only broken with a certificate of divorce and thus engagements were permanent and binding. (more…)