We see it everywhere. They’ve been together for years. She really wants to get married but he’s still not proposed. Everyone’s wondering when it’s going to happen and why he is delaying things. I am going to look at two common reasons (more…)
If you struggle, or have struggled, with being single, you’ll know there are certain situations, and certain times of the year, which are particularly hard, and where our hearts are especially susceptible to being deceived. It’s important to recognise that there’s nothing wrong with finding things hard; let’s be real and honest (more…)
Do you ever catch yourself looking at a girl thinking, “Wow she just seems perfect in every way, I wish I was more like her”? Or maybe you have caught yourself speaking to someone about their problems, thinking “Thank God I am not as all over the place as her”. Sophie de Witt (author of ‘Compared to her’) names this constant (more…)
Lots of Christian women, if they admit it or not, would love to marry an alpha male. When we look at the animal kingdom, the alpha is the individual with the highest rank in his particular community. Often he will be the male who is the strongest and best fighter as well as the most attractive and powerful. Many of us women, if we were honest, when confronted with a group of men will feel the strongest chemistry towards the guy who is the most physically attractive, (more…)
‘You’re nobody ’til somebody loves you’ goes the chorus of the latest single released by X-Factor winner, James Arthur. What a wicked, rotten, destructive lie! Have you bought into it? Do you at times feel as if your value and worth is directly related to the amount of male attention you get or to your relationship status? Do you (more…)
What would you think of me if I told you that I met my husband while drunk in Las Vegas and married him that very evening? Crazy, irresponsible, foolish? Would you be surprised if I told you that we soon realized we had nothing in common, fundamentally disagreed on nearly everything important and are now really struggling to make things work? Probably not! My point? It’s not wise to choose to marry a stranger while drunk! But how many of us would willfully let love stir up and awaken (more…)
Why, oh why, are so many of the pre-marital counselling resources written for individuals who are already engaged? Biblically, a bethrothal (engagement) could only broken with a certificate of divorce and thus engagements were permanent and binding. (more…)
Compulsive Comparative Syndrome. Sophie says we all suffer from it. You think you don’t? Well, do you ever look at a girl in a shop and think: Wow I wish I had her… ? Or do you ever see a sister struggling with sin and think: Good that I am not struggling like that? Sophie calls this CCS and compellingly shows in her book how we all suffer from it. She explains that Compulsive (more…)