Category: Single and Satisfied

Surrendering your ‘RIGHT’ to marry

What do the following Christian book titles have in common? ‘What to do until love finds you’, ‘Prayers and notes to my future husband’, ‘Before you meet prince charming’ and ‘Satisfaction as a single: while waiting on your husband’. (more…)

Singleness in Light of Eternity

Singleness was for me the best and worst of times. Single all through my twenties, I took full advantage of the freedoms it offered: living in multiple locations, pursuing graduate degrees, cultivating deep friendships, becoming very involved at the churches I attended, and enjoying great adventures on multiple continents. (more…)

When EVERYONE’S getting engaged!

If you struggle, or have struggled, with being single, you’ll know there are certain situations, and certain times of the year, which are particularly hard, and where our hearts are especially susceptible to being deceived. It’s important to recognise that there’s nothing wrong with finding things hard; let’s be real and honest (more…)

Compulsive Comparison Syndrome

Do you ever catch yourself looking at a girl thinking, “Wow she just seems perfect in every way, I wish I was more like her”? Or maybe you have caught yourself speaking to someone about their problems, thinking “Thank God I am not as all over the place as her”. Sophie de Witt (author of ‘Compared to her’) names this constant (more…)

“You’re nobody ’til somebody loves you”

‘You’re nobody ’til somebody loves you’ goes the chorus of the latest single released by X-Factor winner, James Arthur. What a wicked, rotten, destructive lie! Have you bought into it? Do you at times feel as if your value and worth is directly related to the amount of male attention you get or to your relationship status? Do you (more…)

Women and their infatuations

Have you ever met a guy, began to daydream about him and soon become totally into him when he has never had any clear conversation with you about his interest? Have you then reached the point where you can’t get him out of your mind and have happily repeatedly fantasized about being with him or being married to him? I would argue that such behavior is potentially dangerous and a waste of our time, energy and emotion! Here are a few reasons why: (more…)

Idolising marriage

When singing, “I surrender all”, do we really mean, “I surrender all except my right to get married”? When we read, “One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life”, do we actually mean, “One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may get married”? (more…)