Most of us Christian women hopefully don’t get up on a Sunday morning and say to ourselves, ‘How can I look sexy, hot and seductive for church?’ We want to honour God through the way we dress (Romans 12, 1 Cor 6:19-20, 1 Tim 2:9). We don’t want to cause our brothers to stumble (Romans 14:21,15:1-7). (more…)
Tag: fruitfullness
Can Men & Women Be “Just Friends”?
One of the big questions hovering around the topic of courtship and dating is the role of friendship. How intimate of a friendship with someone of the opposite sex is OK? How do I move from friendship to dating? Won’t the friendship be ruined if one of us expresses romantic interest and the other doesn’t respond favorably? (more…)
Singleness in Light of Eternity
Singleness was for me the best and worst of times. Single all through my twenties, I took full advantage of the freedoms it offered: living in multiple locations, pursuing graduate degrees, cultivating deep friendships, becoming very involved at the churches I attended, and enjoying great adventures on multiple continents. (more…)
When EVERYONE’S getting engaged!
If you struggle, or have struggled, with being single, you’ll know there are certain situations, and certain times of the year, which are particularly hard, and where our hearts are especially susceptible to being deceived. It’s important to recognise that there’s nothing wrong with finding things hard; let’s be real and honest (more…)
Compulsive Comparison Syndrome
Do you ever catch yourself looking at a girl thinking, “Wow she just seems perfect in every way, I wish I was more like her”? Or maybe you have caught yourself speaking to someone about their problems, thinking “Thank God I am not as all over the place as her”. Sophie de Witt (author of ‘Compared to her’) names this constant (more…)
Compared to her
Compulsive Comparative Syndrome. Sophie says we all suffer from it. You think you don’t? Well, do you ever look at a girl in a shop and think: Wow I wish I had her… ? Or do you ever see a sister struggling with sin and think: Good that I am not struggling like that? Sophie calls this CCS and compellingly shows in her book how we all suffer from it. She explains that Compulsive (more…)
Idolising marriage
When singing, “I surrender all”, do we really mean, “I surrender all except my right to get married”? When we read, “One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life”, do we actually mean, “One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may get married”? (more…)
A great danger when relating to men
Imagine you have met a guy and he is totally into you. He calls you non stop to the point of excess. He is ready to cancel any plans he has to be with you. If you are feeling slightly claustrophobic around him and act a little bit colder than usual, he does not mind at all and only wants to spend more time with you. If you start trying to avoid him a little to get your space, he only seems to be more interested. You can do no wrong. (more…)